"He Better Pay!" - The Modern Dating Entitlement Problem

Ladies, we need to talk. And fellas, grab some popcorn because this one's going to be juicy. We’ve all seen those viral stories where women expect men to open their wallets wider than the Grand Canyon. But in some cases? Oh, honey, they take the cake, the bakery, and the entire dessert menu.

Now, before you clutch your pearls or throw your phone across the room, let’s be clear—I am NOT saying men shouldn’t pay for dates. It’s a beautiful thing when a man treats a woman with generosity. But expecting it like it’s a contractual obligation? That’s where things go sideways.

So let’s dive into two wild stories that will make you question if we’ve lost all sense of dating decorum.

The Date That Turned Into a Takeout Order for a Family of Five

Imagine this: A guy asks a woman out for a nice dinner date. He picks the spot, dresses to impress, and is ready to enjoy good food and even better company. So far, so good, right?

Dinner goes well, conversation flows, and then the check arrives. Just as he’s about to pull out his card, she drops the bombshell:

"Oh, and can you add a takeaway order for my four kids?"

Wait. What?

Yes, you heard right. Not one, not two, but FOUR extra meals! This man signed up for a date, not to be an Uber Eats driver with a broken tip jar. But because he didn’t want to seem like "a broke man who can’t provide," he paid.

Listen, I love a free meal as much as the next person, but expecting your date to feed a whole village? That’s next-level audacity.

The $30 That Wasn't Enough

Now, let’s move on to Exhibit B: A man, let’s call him Jake, was talking to a woman who kept hinting that she needed money. Being the sweet soul he is, he sent her his last $30.

You’d think she’d be grateful, right? Nope. Instead, she responded with the digital equivalent of a side-eye and a scoff:

"That’s not enough."

Then she BLOCKED HIM.

Girl, if "bare minimum" had a headquarters, she would be the CEO. Not only did she get money she didn’t earn, but she also ghosted the man like he sent Monopoly money instead of his last real-life dollars.

Now, don’t get me wrong. It’s great when a man treats a woman—chivalry isn’t dead, and we love a generous king. But there’s a difference between generosity and straight-up exploitation.

Dating should be about mutual connection, not running a scam disguised as romance. And ladies, let’s be real—demanding extravagant gestures without bringing anything to the table is not "high standards." It’s just entitlement with a pretty Instagram filter.

Here’s a thought—what if we normalized the idea that women can treat their men too? Shocking, I know! But let’s be real—relationships are partnerships. If you expect your man to pay for everything, what message are you sending? That his worth is only measured by his bank account? That you are incapable of financial independence? That romance only exists when there’s a price tag attached?

It’s 2025, ladies! We are bosses, entrepreneurs, leaders. We fight for equality in every other area of life—why should dating be any different? Offering to split the bill or treating him once in a while doesn’t make you any less feminine. In fact, it shows confidence, capability, and care.

A healthy dating dynamic is about reciprocity, if a guy offers to pay, wonderful! But expecting (or demanding) it? That’s where things get murky.

And let’s not forget—sometimes, a man may not have the means to splurge but is still an incredible person with so much to offer. Love isn’t about who can drop the most money on a dinner bill. It’s about effort, mutual respect, and appreciating each other.

So, to the ladies out there: Would you want a man to only love you for your wallet? No? Then let’s not do the same. And to the guys? Keep your money AND your dignity intact. A queen won’t demand, she’ll appreciate.

A real relationship isn’t a financial transaction; it’s a beautiful dance of giving and receiving, supporting and being supported. And that, my friends, is worth more than any expensive dinner or fancy date.

What are your thoughts on this wild trend? Have you ever been in a similar situation?