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DWC 100 Women: He's Coming Home by Women's Aid UK

The "He’s Coming Home" campaign by Women’s Aid UK opened up a crucial dialogue about the dark side of football fandom—domestic violence.

The phrase "He's Coming Home," a clever twist on the popular football chant, "It's Coming Home," was designed to highlight the chilling reality that for many women, the return of their partner from a football match or a pub often meant an increase in domestic abuse.

Studies consistently show a disturbing correlation between football matches and increased incidents of domestic abuse, making campaigns like this more essential than ever.

Football and Domestic Violence: The Alarming Stats

  • A landmark study by Lancaster University revealed that domestic violence incidents in England rise by 38% on match days when the national team plays. Even when the team wins, there’s a 26% increase the following day as post-match celebrations sometimes turn violent.
  • Losses can exacerbate tensions, with emotional outbursts and alcohol consumption acting as catalysts for abuse. For example, during the 2018 FIFA World Cup, domestic violence incidents spiked by 33% following England’s loss to Croatia in the semi-finals.
  • Reports from police departments show that calls about domestic violence are significantly higher during large-scale football tournaments compared to regular days.

Why Football Nights Become Dangerous

Several factors contribute to this troubling pattern:

      • Alcohol Consumption: Football matches are often paired with heavy drinking, a known risk factor for violent behaviour. Studies suggest alcohol-related violence accounts for over 50% of domestic abuse cases in the UK.

    Real-Life Stories

    Women’s Aid UK shared accounts of victims whose experiences highlight the devastating link between football and abuse:

    • Emma (name changed for privacy) recalls dreading tournament nights: “If his team lost, I knew I’d be the one paying for it. A bad match meant a bad night for me.”
    • Sophie, another survivor, shared how the sound of a football chant still triggers anxiety years later, as it reminds her of nights when celebrations turned violent.

    A Wider Problem

    The issue isn’t limited to England. Similar trends have been documented worldwide, with reports from Spain, Germany, and Brazil showing spikes in domestic violence tied to football events. In some cases, abuse stems from gambling losses or heightened nationalistic fervour during matches.

    How the “He’s Coming Home” Campaign Made a Difference

    The campaign didn’t just raise awareness—it provided tools and support for victims. Women’s Aid UK collaborated with local police and social services, ensuring victims could access emergency shelter and legal assistance during tournaments.

    • They distributed “safe words” victims could use in stores or over the phone to discreetly signal for help.
    • The campaign included training for bartenders and stadium staff to recognize signs of abuse and provide support.
    • Football players and pundits were enlisted as allies, publicly condemning domestic violence and encouraging fans to celebrate responsibly.

    A Call to Action

    The "He’s Coming Home" campaign is a stark reminder of how societal celebrations can have unintended, devastating consequences for vulnerable groups. As we cheer for our teams, we must also take action to protect those for whom football nights are a source of fear.

    • If you’re a fan, celebrate responsibly.
    • If you notice warning signs of abuse in your community, report it.
    • Support organizations like Women's Aid UK to ensure victims have the resources they need.

    By addressing the root causes of football-related violence and offering robust support, we can ensure that home is a place of safety and love for everyone—even on match days.

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